What’s good my G’s. The homie Na’dean is going to start blessing the masses with some words on wisdom on a regular basis. She’s a model, student, auto mechanic, business women, hustler, fake rapper, and supposedly cooks a mean french toast. She is also a dear friend/business partner of mine and I’m glad to have her talk to the lonely readers of this here site. I hope you guys enjoy enjoy it, and hit Na’dean on Twitter if you’d like to chop it up or submit any questions.
Allow me to reintroduce myself my name’s Na’dean… but you can call me Imani if ya nasty ;p lol jk. I’m a dope ass chick with an even more cool personality (so I’ve been told.) I’m opinionated with a mind of my own and folks love me for that. For quite some time, people have been asking me to start an advice/chat column because #1 as I stated before, I’m very opinionated #2 I give pretty good advice and #3 you’re probably wondering if I’m “just a pretty face.” Well, I’m not… *evil grin.* Now it’s up to you to put what I say into perspective but this is all for haha’s and to make you THINK. I gathered a few questions that my twitter and facebook friends have asked, and I’m going to answer them in the most honest way possible. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the show 
@Apthe___ asks “How do you feel about new years resolutions, and what are yours if you have any?”
NI: New year’s Resolutions are for those who list their “realistic” goals for the next year and “plan” on accomplishing them, but usually never do. Isn’t that how it goes? We set some extremely unrealistic shit like buying a house in 2012 when our yearly income is 20K and we’re still paying off that car note + insurance. And saying we’re going to lose 20 pounds but we’re still eating cheeseburgers and fries. Shit like that. New Year’s resolutions should be continuing to chase after your lifetime goals (if you even have any) because realistically, you’re not going to get any of those “resolutions” accomplished if you do not work at them.
My goals are quite basic but straight to the point. I have about 4 short lists of roughly 10-15 goals divided into categories. They are as follow: Life, Business, Modeling, and Miscellaneous purchases. I won’t share them all with you, but two of my Lifetime goals are to create an impactful documentary that I can share with young adults, and to read from the bible almost every day. Those are examples of realistic goals to accomplish. The fact is that too many people are extremely lazy and don’t want to take the necessary steps to make shit happen. We have the goal getters, the couch potatoes, and the mentally determined but physically still people. Which one are you? Be a goal getter, get it done, and see results. simple. We don’t need a “resolution.”
@IamTaadow asks “Why do black men date outside their race?”
NI: I’ve been thinking about this question for some time now and it still boggles my mind at the answers i’ve received, mainly because I’m a predominately “black” woman. But I’m content with the woman that I am and who I am becoming. Let me start off by saying that there are men out there who do love black women. But these days pop culture over-saturates that game with the thought that light skinned women are more attractive than women of color. Men with power like the ones we see everyday on television from reality stars, our favorite music artists, football players, etc. are usually dating either an exotic or “light skinned” woman. Which convinces SOME other men that they should be doing the same. Although everyone has their preferences, men seem to pay less attention to black women for numerous reasons I’m sure.
I’ve heard so many stories as to why black men only date outside their race and they’re all different. Some men want change. Some want a woman to treat them right. But truth is… no two women are alike! We all treat our men differently. Doesn’t matter the race, skin complexion, hair texture, whatever! I hear that a lot of black women feel the need to be too independent and play the dominant role. I hear that we have the worst attitudes and don’t know how to let a man be a man. I think that the way a woman treats her man has to do with her upbringing, mentality, and beliefs. I personally feel that if you’re physically, mentally, sexually and emotionally attracted to her, then you give that broad a try.Fuck her skin tone. I can go on and on about this topic, but I won’t. We are ALL beautiful! And ladies… as long as you are pure and one hundred percent content with who you are, you should care less about what most black men are attracted to! I’m done.
